Confidence and self-esteem is something that we all struggle with as women. And if you’re sitting there thinking, “not me,” you’re lying! We all have things about ourselves that we don’t like. Lack of confidence and low-self esteem was the duo that held me back from being the woman who God called me to be for a long time. A lot of people think that you can cover up a lack of confidence and low self-esteem by “fixing” whatever they think is wrong with them – but the truth is…your confidence and self-esteem is rooted in knowing who you are and whose you are. We’re all somebody and we all belong to someone. I believe that every personal problem in life is rooted in an identity crisis. This is why the enemy works overtime to make sure that we don’t really know who we are. Knowing who and whose you are sets a solid foundation for you to be stable in life, for the rest of your life. It is imperative that we instill confidence and self-esteem in our children from the time that they are born (this is another huge reason why we should not physically discipline them because it bruises their ego. More on that here). Esteemed children grow into confident adults. My husband, parents, and close family & friends consistently esteem me, still, even as an adult. Although our confidence and self-esteem should not come from outward validation, it’s important to have a community of people who will remind you of who you are. Confidence and self-esteem is internal validation that should be planted deep in your heart.
Jesus lived perfectly confident. He knew exactly who He was, who He belonged to, and what He was sent on earth to accomplish. This is the formula for total confidence: identity + assurance + purpose = confidence. You cannot have one without the other two. You can’t have two without the other one. When you know who God has created you to be, why you’re important to Him, and why He created you in the first place, walking in confidence is inevitable and our trust in Him is the foundation that we walk on. It’s an easy concept to grasp once you apply this formula to your own life. I didn’t have high self-esteem and start walking in confidence until my mid-twenties. If you’re reading this and you are a certain age where you feel like lack of confidence and low self-esteem is holding you back from being the best version of yourself, don’t beat yourself up. Remind yourself that you have a God-given purpose and a life assignment to accomplish. Remind yourself that you are important, and that God created you to be a solution to a problem in the Earth.
Here are 3 things I used to immediately boost my confidence and self-esteem that you can use too:
This isn’t an overnight process. No no one is 100% confident with perfect self-esteem. Once you start learning yourself and who God uniquely created you to be and once you start learning who you are in Him and who He is in you, walking in confidence and high self-esteem is inevitable. You deserve to live the life that you were created to live.
Xo – Riss
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